The Laws of Attraction?

Lately I've been wondering about the whole concept of attractiveness. I feel like it would be impossible to be so attracted physically to someone and have it be one sided. Of course you have people that you can be obsessed with that may be out of your league-Like my celebrity crushes Robert Downey Jr., Colin Ferril, or the "God of Men" in my eyes-David Beckham. I mean there's no way they would look my way when passing them on the street. But I wonder if the opportunity came up, outside of "class" or societal hierarchy-would there be the same undeniable attraction?
Generally people are considered good looking by a societal standard, and although people have a classic type-and may not be open to meeting someone outside of it, I think it would be generally agreed upon that the person in question is still attractive by those standards decided by society. I mean the factors that influence attractiveness such as symmetrical face, proportional body, general good disposition, etc..
So my question is-if one person could be so attracted to someone- say more than they have ever been before, wouldn't it just be unimaginable that someone couldn't feel the same way about them? I mean personalities and relationship flaws/hangups aside-I'm talking pure PHYSICAL attraction. I just find it hard to believe that the level of intensity of the attraction couldn't be reciprocated.
For example: I was once so infatuated with someone physically that I just always assumed he felt the same about me. And when we finally did cross over into the sexual relationship we developed, I felt that want through his fingertips. He never expressed himself emotionally, but I felt the attraction when he touched me. Almost that barbaric lust for something you've wanted for so long. We hooked up multiple times and it was always the same. But then I began to wonder-was it just in my head? Could he touch every woman with the same intensity that I thought just belonged to us? I thought I was different and maybe he reserved that level of intimacy for me, but his actions outside of the bedroom suggested otherwise.
More evidence that attraction can be equally shared-sexual tension. Would sexual tension be evidence that people always have the same level of attraction towards each other? Or is it impossible to define laws of attraction so simply?
In reality I also know I've met people who have been attracted to me, and maybe me not the same them, but I feel like it always happens after we get to know each other. The physicality of it is always somehow ruined by the reality in differences or the turmoil we allow our own lives to take over are romantic intentions. Maybe originally I'm always curious to pursue someone who is generally equally as attractive to me, and the same for them. Which is why maybe women and men have such a hard time being friends. The attraction is always something that curiosity makes us pursue. And the only thing that would stop that exploration is the knowledge that it would probably just be a fleeting moment of equal attraction, and somehow one side would be ruined eventually.. therefore making it imbalanced *which seems to happen the majority of the time*. I personally can never see myself on the arm of any of my best guy friends, but I've still managed to kiss the majority. And the ones I haven't I sometimes feel the sexual tension that is between us and I've just decided in the end it's most likely irrelevant to my romantic life.
So the question in the end is-if both parties are considered generally attractive by society standards, and equally so-is it possible to have an imbalance of attraction? Or does personality or relationship pressure always get in the way of the simple idea? Perhaps if those things didn't come into play we could take that statement as fact that " if your both equally attractive people, you will always inevitably have the same level of attraction towards the other person." And if that were true, maybe we would never be self conscious because we would know that is has nothing to do with our looks, but only outside factors. Just something to think about..and I'm curious for responses.

Let's Give Them Something To Talk About

It's been recently called to my attention that guys cannot keep anything between themselves and another individual. Even in relationships, it takes a couple of months before they really start to realize they might actually care about their significant other and learn that not everything has to be a big conversation for them and the boys. What I'm mainly talking about here is sexual activities, (because we all know men don't really listen to anything you say until it becomes official that they actually might respect what your chatting about over coffee instead of just thinking about how if you weren't so good in bed, this coffee date wouldn't be worth waking up for.) My problem is not that they talk, because we should all know that by now, but it's the trickery of it all. Does it not seem they spend way to much effort trying to come off as this wonderful guy, who doesn't really care what his friends think all night just so they have the potential to bring you home? They spend all night away from their friends talking about how great you are, and somewhere in between leaving the bar and the bedroom you begin to think-hey maybe I trust this guy, could we share something and enjoy each other's company for the night without the awkwardness? Maybe.. Then bam..the next day/week you hear through the grapevine that Mr. Wonderful guy told all his friends about the conquest that was you. He couldn't help himself. At first he may have said nothing happened, and then suddenly in response to the looks of boredom or disappointment from all his buddies-he begins to spill the details. The problem is-it doesnt mean he doesnt like you. It just means he's an idiot..which it just so happens most guys are, and even if they think you're the coolest girl in the world, they'll still tell all their friends every detail about your recent sexual adventure-most of the time inflated with lies. The question is why do they do it? I'm thinking immaturity. We all know the majority of guys are insecure and therefore immature.  (And that's why you especially can't trust the ex frat boys-because they always seem to be the most of all male types-I mean let's face it, they need the approval of about 50 other guys) But what does that say about us girls ? 

The Inevitable Headache of the Uncomplicated Relationship

Breakdown

Today my roommate was sad because some guy she had sex with hasn't called her in two days. This is why it's a frustrating situation-She met this guy like 6 months ago, blew him off on a date saying she was "sore" from the gym..clever I know (but I must admit one of the best blow off lines I've ever heard.) I always just make up that I'm seeing someone else now or a good friend just had a bad breakup and needs a shoulder, so I guess I'm not as original. Anyways, hasn't talked to him in months and then all of a sudden gets a random text (one of those convo starter types like.."I saw someone that looked like ur twin today..how are u?") For some reason she decides to finally go on a date with him. I'm not sure if she's lonely, or just wants a free meal originally, but to her surprise she actually enjoys his company and when she meets up with all the girls post date she's all smiles. She is one of those girls about the "games"-prior to the date she already has a gameplan to not see him for a week-but when he texts her on Valentines day casually recognizing the day I guess it all goes out the window (like usual) and the the following day she's at his house to watch a movie. Watching a movie by the way is the worst second date imaginable. Not out at the theater, but a house invite definitely. I mean think of it this way-there's going to be pressure. Two people of the opposite sex with any kind of sex drive can't get through a whole movie without making a move. It's awkward. As much as you want to watch the movie you will still be feeling the "friction" that eventually leads to some kind of sexual activity. You're going to want to touch, and if you're not- you'll be wondering why not the whole time. So bad move on the "movie" date. Anyways as fate would have it.. it happened just like that. They end up making out, grabbing cocktails, and then she's back at his apartment again-and she decides to do what every girl debates (either inside or out loud) and she eventually gives in-she has sex with him.
Now, I'm one of those people that doesn't really have rules, but I've accepted there's this underlying truth that once you give it up, he might not call. Guys have it in their heads that they don't want to date "that girl". They want to date and marry the one who makes it hard and that's just reality. So the real question is-is it worth it to wait?
I say no and here's why. Ok so you wait. You constantly shut him down knowing one day you'll have this big night when you finally do, and he'll put on the candles and you'll feel comfortable in your skin, and he actually respects you enough to be sweet...blah blah. But here's the problem: The friends I know that do wait because they want to be seen as "marriage material" still get their hearts broken. Because marriage material isn't based on sex, it's based on the person. Maybe they were intriguing in the beginning because they were hard to get, but the truth is simple- if he's going to break up with you, he'll end up doing it either way. So although sex might influence him at first, he's eventually going to get it regardless, so why are we lying and holding out in hopes he might fall in love with us a little more? If you ask me I'd rather be with someone that wouldn't judge that because I wouldn't judge that which means we probably would have a better connection. And I'm also not saying you should have sex with anyone-and especially not with someone you barely know- because guys are all bullshit until about the 4th date anyways. They're always trying to impress us, the same why we're trying to impress them... so either way you look at it-both sexes are full of lies.
Maybe if honesty was as important as sex we'd be far better off with relationships. The problem is all we're thinking about as women is to hold out or not to hold out? And all they're thinking about as men is how long do I have to be sweet until I get what I want? In the end..it's all lies. So that's why I'm spreading the word-if a guy stops calling you because you had sex with him, he was probably going to stop calling in a couple weeks anyways.

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